I share about what I learned from an ill advised situationship blowing up in my face. I broke some of my own rules, I knew better, and I played a stupid game and won a stupid prize. What red flags did I ignore? What did I learn from the experience? I mean, how DOES someone who made a podcast episode (two years ago!) about how bad and pointless situationships are, kinda end up in one? Listen to this episode to hear all about it (red flags of situationships or early dating) and learn from my mistakes so you don't make them. I also talk about how many of us know better yet break our own rules, and how it's so important to give ourselves grace, compassion, love, and forgiveness as we move forward with lessons and self worth.
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This episode is about testing out our internal algorithms, our standard operating procedures, and the rules and regulations by which we lead our lives. I outline four of the main ways we - in my opinion - create these rules, and I discuss a recent example of breaking one of my own long-standing rules, how that went, and what I learned. What are the rules that create the boundaries of your own life? This episode will give you a lot to think about as you ponder your own life and circumstances.
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In this episode, I talk about the importance of consistency, predictability, and reliability in all relationships, but especially romantic ones. Consistency creates emotional safety and trust in relationships, which creates more space for authentic intimacy to blossom. Listen to learn more about why this is so important. (And, side note: this isn't about perfectionism, but rather healthy emotionality and relating.)
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In this Aries full moon (!) episode of the Claim Your Magic Podcast with Sabrina Scott, I talk about how trauma has layers to it - we can heal significantly, and then loop back to learn similar lessons at a different stage of healing from a different vantage point. I also discuss reaction time (and appropriate reactions) in relation to trauma, and share some personal anecdotes of men who try to 'humble' women - and what I want for us all instead. (Spoiler: Confident, happy people who completely own what they're good at, and who support others in their joy, art, achievements, and creativity!)
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A slight detour from our normal programming - let’s chat about the final episodes of Love Is Blind season 6! I know not everyone here will care about reality TV but as a total sincere sappy person who loves authentic love… I can’t help myself. Spoilers galore, be warned!
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Married dudes sliding into my DMs and asking me out on dates - how fun! Did I tell the wife? Of course! Sadly this isn’t the first time this has happened and likely won’t be the last. In this episode I talk about integrity, honesty, values, and the importance of doing the right thing even when it’s hard. This can help our spiritual growth, too.
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It can be hard as hell to live in alignment with our values - at first. But over time, it gets easier and easier, and catapults us into a life that feels uncomplicated and aligned. In this episode I talk a bit about this, and my own journey around these topics. I also share the most common reason folks come to me for tarot readings, and how holding our breath for the potential of other people can be a death sentence.
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This is a niche episode, especially for my fellow coaches and people hiring coaches and anyone who spends a lot of time online. Let’s use our critical thinking skills. I explain the psychology of “let me be the mom you never had” marketing, why it’s predatory, and what coaching can be instead.
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Happy new moon! Feminine Energy Without Bullshit launches today. In this episode I talk about the tendency of many women to overgive and put everyone else above themselves. I share a bit about my journey and how I moved from self abandonment to a true and deeply rooted self love.
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Hi friends! Happy new moon! This episode is a meandering ramble about how important it is to take responsibility for our behaviour and our choices. I talk a little bit about my own journey in life and business, as well as a bit about that insane twin flame cult and what disturbed me when I listened to interviews with folks who left.
Read MoreHave y’all seen that insane new Netflix documentary, Escaping Twin Flames Universe? It’s an insane whirlwind of an online spiritual cult and shares some testimonies of people who have escaped it. Unfortunately, this group operated online. In this episode, I talk about the cult and how fucked up and crazy it is - that isn’t really something to doubt - and I also talk about how these folks give a bad name to online courses, online course creators, and online coaches like myself and many others who do good and honest, authentic, heart felt work in the spiritual space. This will probably be the first episode of a few where I talk about this. I share a bit about how online communities were life changing for me both as an adult and a suburban teen, and how every industry has its insane people, scammers, and charlatans.
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Over the years, it has broken my heart to see so many lovely, amazing people - especially women - give so much of their energy, time, and patience to those who don’t deserve it. Sometimes this can be out of a misplaced hopefulness, and sometimes it can be due to a scarcity mindset and an idea that we just have to tolerate misalignment. When we elevate our standards (yes, for ourselves, too, we aren’t off the hook!), we elevate our lives.
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Hello my beautiful single ladies! In this episode I talk a little bit about a very common dating norm: going out “for drinks” on a date. I explain why this is not the way to go, how it can create situations where we abandon our own boundaries, where it’s harder to listen to our intuition, and it sets up a dynamic where someone is okay with getting us intoxicated rather than nourishing our bodies.
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In this episode, I talk about how my relationship to sex and my body has changed over time. As a young adult, I explored a lot, completely without emotion - having sex like many young men do. As I’ve gotten older, I have come to see the value in “the snail method” - taking sex super slowly, and getting to know (really really get to know) potential new partners before getting physical. I realize this is a spicy and contentious topic, and that I may get accused of slut shaming. I’m thankful for my experiences in my youth, they made me a confident and savvy woman in regards to sexuality. That being said, I do think a lot of adult women are having sex in ways that don’t benefit them, with men who don’t respect them. In this episode I talk about my perspective on that phenomenon, and how single ladies can avoid this very vulnerable kind of heartbreak of being sexually used.
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In this episode I explain what a situationship is and why it’s a horrible thing for anyone to find themselves in, but particularly awful for women. Just say no! We’ve all been there and we don’t have to stay there!
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By popular demand, in this episode I explain what a pick me woman (or “pickmeisha”) is. I give some examples of how pick me women act and think, as well as some of the extreme dark manifestations of this mindset and energy. I would argue that most women go through a phase like this as teens and young adults, and it’s part of stepping into womanhood to choose self worth, self love, and strong boundaries instead.
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Hi friends! Wow, it didn’t take long for my week ahead tarot reading to catch up with my personal life! I talk about noticing patterns in our tarot readings, and the importance of taking note when repeat cards come up. I also talk about the most important quality in a conflict: curiosity.
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Have you ever dated someone and felt more alone when you were with them, than when you were actually by yourself? In this episode I talk about a few recent tarot readings where the same exact cards came up, and what I learned from those cards (and, of course, what you can learn from these cards when they come up in your own tarot readings). Topics of the day include wounded masculine energy, the importance of recording your tarot readings, why the King of Cups reversed is a red flag in relationship readings, and two perfectly contrasting Swords cards. Join me?
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Hi friends! In this episode I talk about radical honesty, prolonged adolescence, personal growth, and how when we are in our integrity and honest with ourselves and others about who we are and what we want… a lot will fall away. As it should! That’s okay and it’s awesome. In this episode, I explain why.
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