In this episode, I discuss dysfunctional family systems and how what we learn in childhood can follow us around forever, unless we take steps to move outside of these wounds, traumas, assumptions, and dysfunctions. I discuss examples of how this can impact how we interact in the workplace, in our friendships, and in our romantic relationships. Includes recommendations for resources to understand these dynamics.
Read MoreIn this episode of the Secrets of a Witch podcast, I discuss something we all experience at least once in our lives - the ending of relationships! Whether it's romantic or friendship, we've all had relationships end, and many of us have been dumped. I talk about how the best way to approach being dumped or left is simply to accept it, rather than fight it or seeking endless conversations and closure. I talk about how closure should come from within ourselves, and we should not rely on others for our own healing process and ability to move on. Closure is within you, nowhere else.
Read MoreA lotta witches are miserable, unhappy, and ungrounded - they do magic for the wrong reasons, such as emotional instability, pettiness, anger, jealousy, or something else. Magic can absolutely be worked with to help us heal from trauma (as I talk about in my second graphic novel Bodymagic), however it seems that many people in witchcraft land aren't using magic to heal, but rather to further entrench themselves in their own negative habits, mindsets, and unhealthy ways of thinking. Our magic is limited by our own state of mind. In this episode, I discuss the state of witchy community, and how I think we can all work with magic in better, healthier ways.
Read MoreIs forgiveness necessary or relevant when we are healing our trauma, our shadows, and our wounds? Do we need to forgive family members, or anyone who has hurt us in the past? In this episode, I discuss my own healing journey, and how forgiveness - though it was not on my radar at all, and was not something I strived for - somehow happened to me anyway. Is forgiveness necessary for your journey? I explain why or why not, and offer a perspective contrary to what we tend to see in a lot of pop psych woo woo spaces. With so many people seeing family this holiday season, it seems a relevant topic to discuss!
Read MoreHappy Samhain and Happy Halloween! I start off this episode by talking about how to work with the energy of this moment, and some ritual ideas for this coming weekend. I then - after sharing a few special deals that end today and Monday - discuss a very weird talk I went to last night, by renowned woo woo person Gabby Bernstein! I have been positive-neutral on her, but the talk really left a bad taste in my mouth; I explain how and why that was the case, as well as what that means for people who are very traumatized and seeking healing and help. Should you get therapy or just focus on manifestation? In my opinion, for people in active crisis, they need therapy, not manifestation. I discuss scope creep as well as critique some cult psychology and trauma dumping I experienced in the talk I went to. I end the podcast episode by talking about the importance of perspective, and approaching even unpleasant situations with curiosity.
Read MoreIn this episode, I chat a little about this past Mother’s Day and how it was for me - in truth, I forgot it was Mother’s Day - and wow, what a blessing to be at a place on my healing journey that I was able to not know, and then when I knew, I enjoyed it instead of being triggered. I found out it was Mother’s Day when I went to zoom church - and received a message from some departed women on my mother’s side. I explain a bit about Spiritualist mediumship and my experience having certain spirit connections unlocked and/or deepened. I also discuss mentoring as a form of mothering, and how important it is to mother ourselves, no matter how old we are.
Read MoreOkay so this episode is a little bit of a rant… stick with me though. Over the last few years, witchy and spiritual spaces have been inundated with the rhetoric of the oppression olympics, a narcissistic over-fixation on identity, and an obsession with personal injury. In this episode I talk a bit about some of the conversations I’ve observed lately, particularly a knee jerk response to (and rejection of) “low vibe” and “high vibe” rhetoric. I give a contrary perspective, which is that we can accept ourselves no matter where we are on our journey. Shame is optional, and so is the rejection of happy and helpful concepts. A deep episode, lol!
Read MoreIn this episode I talk about ancestor work. Of course, we all know about inter generational trauma, family dynamics and how dysfunctional systems get handed down from generation to generation within families. But what about the traumas, habits, narratives, and beliefs specific to our female and women ancestors in our lineage? In this episode I talk about why looking at gender and ancestral narratives and experiences are so important in understanding and healing our own traumas, energies, and lives - as witches, and as creators of our reality.
Read MoreHi friends! In today’s episode I talk about how it feels to look back at old photos and see how far we have come. If you haven’t done this in a while I would really recommend it! I talk about the cataclysmic moments that led to me divorcing my family, weathering the storm, healing, and levelling up. Also, soft launch of my first big ass course since 2020, Feminine Energy Without Bullshit, is tonight!
Read MoreOkay, I know this isn’t about witchcraft - but guess what? Witches are, above all, PEOPLE. And if I had a dollar for every time someone emailed me crying over someone who was very clearly abusive, I would be a bazillionaire. In this episode I explain the basics of abuse psychology as I understand it - the fundamentals of how it works, how people get sucked in, what kind of relationships this can happen in, and some basic warning signs to look out for. It can be hard to get out of these connections once they really get rolling; listen to this episode to learn big red flags and signs that you absolutely need to disconnect. I end with a pep talk for anyone going through something hot and cold - love does NOT have to feel that way! Sometimes the best magic is to LEAVE. Sending everyone love and good energy! If you find this episode healing or helpful, please share it with a friend or loved one who could benefit.
Read MoreY’all gonna think I’m corny for this, but I truly don’t care - I liked this book, okay! In this episode I explain why this book is relevant to anyone with a traumatic or dysfunctional childhood and/or family story, how we can find hope and inspiration everywhere (even a celebrity memoir), and what I love about Prince Harry’s approach to choosing love and saying no to family dysfunction.
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